Seen // Unseen

If you’ve ever felt that maybe, “He’s/She’s just not into you”, read on to discover just who does see, notice and love you, and what to do about it.

I spoke with a friend this week who has come to the realisation that the guy she likes is not interested in her. A couple of days later, I had to giggle to myself when she sent me a picture of a book she stumbled upon in an op shop. It’s title: “He’s Just Not That Into You”. I wasn’t laughing at her, but rather a knowing, ‘Yes, sometimes that guy just won’t be interested and there’s no point hoping he might be’.

Sometimes we cling to things that were never meant to be ours – the guy who ‘might’ one day like you; or some other thing (think of the comparison trap – wanting what another person has).

The truth is we’re to cling to Jesus! He is. Full-stop. He is the fulfillment of God’s promises to us, to give us a hope and a future. He is Victorious. King. Lover. Friend. Faithful. One who sees us.

That last one hit home for me when I heard from my friend of the guy who hasn’t pursued her. My heart ached for her. I know what it feels like to long to be loved and noticed. To wait… and… be overlooked…

Yet, God always notices us. Always chooses us (even when He knows and sees us at our worst). He created us, gifted us, set us apart for a holy calling.

He gave us hearts after His own. Hearts designed to love Him and others. Hearts that embrace grace and mercy. Hearts desiring justice. Hearts linked to Heaven, always longing for more. More of Him! Christ revealed in all His glorious splendour.

So lovely, while you’re waiting, you’re also not waiting – your Prince has come, riding on a white horse, clad in shining armour, scarred with wounds that tell of how He fought to protect you… Love him. Wait upon Him (dwell in His presence)…

And know that whether your earthly husband has arrived or not, you’ve already won the greatest prize (all of His doing too – a beautiful gift given freely to us). Embrace Him, as He does you. You are loved.

In Genesis 16 we read the story of Hagar. She felt unloved and unseen, yet in verse 13, we see how her perspective changed…

“The Lord talked to Hagar. She began to use a new name for God. She said to him, “You are ‘God Who Sees Me (El roi).’” She said this because she thought, “I see that even in this (wilderness) place God sees me and cares for me” (Easy Read Version) … with understanding and compassion! (Amplified version)””.

Hagar’s life was not what she had imagined it would be. Nevertheless, God was with her. He is with you too, ‘even in this place’ where you find yourself today. Whether it is what you’ve planned and dreamt of, or something entirely different. He is Immanuel/Emmanuel, God with us. God with you (and with me).


A girl growing more in love with the One who sees her…

Scripture references: The Holy Bible (several translations)

Photo credit: Skitterphoto

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Valentine’s Schmalentines

V Day is coming. How does the single girl/guy survive?

Feb 14th is nearly upon us once again. I’m not sure about you, but I’m still very much single.


It was a few weeks before Christmas last year, and I found myself feeling concerned about what the holiday season would bring and just how I’d cope with it. If you’ve been single for a while, you may be familiar with this.

I love Christmas – time with family and friends, carols, food, gifts etc. Yet, the festive season can also be really challenging to navigate. Derek Prince once said that holiday times can catch us at our weakest, as the devil knows our vulnerabilities and preys on them. I’ve experienced this before – the moments when I’ve been surrounded by people have sometimes been the loneliness times of my life, highlighting that everyone (seemingly!) has a family of their own except me. Watching other people delight in seeing their children’s faces light up with joy as they open their presents, can be heartbreaking for someone who’d love to be doing that themselves. Sigh…

As I said, I wasn’t overly looking forward to having these experiences and trying to paste a smile on my face (to hide the tears and pain I was feeling). I know from experience that it’s not easy to explain it to others, and generally they don’t get it, and just think you’re being a selfish drama queen. This is so far from the truth, but the grief you know all too well is foreign to them and often they just can’t understand.

“What happened?” you might ask. I prayed and prayed and prayed some more. I poured out my heart to God and let Him know that I just couldn’t face that pain again. I needed Him to do something!

The most beautiful grace was extended to me. He walked by my side in every situation which could have been so hurtful. He gave me strength when I had none of my own. And he brought me joy. (He even took care of the little things, like having others prepare Christmas lunch).

Back to the present…

Valentine’s Day is just around the corner.

I want you to know that while the world seems to be shouting out that only couples matter, you matter!

God cares for you in this moment, and He has grace for you during this time.

I’d encourage you to cry out to Him. Share everything that’s on your heart. Let Him speak love unto you.

He’s been showing me lately how He is jealous FOR me (We tend to get envious OF others and what they have, but He is jealous FOR us – He just wants us!) (Exodus 34:14). Lean into relationship with Him. Spend some one on one time with the one who knows everything about you and loves you more than you could ever dream of. Check out another of my blog posts, Focus!, for more on this.

Also… don’t do V Day alone. Get together with some single friends and just have fun together! (I’m thinking of doing something here. Send me your ideas for celebrating the beautiful singles in your world)


Scripture references: The Holy Bible

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