Singleness and Valentine’s don’t exactly go together. In fact, if anything, it seems to only highlight that which you already knew … you are indeed single ;).
This year I had the ‘joy’ of having a friend excitedly ask me, “What are your V Day plans?” …. Plans? Really?? You actually asked a single girl that question??? You seriously want to draw my focus to that day?
My point… I think it can be so easy to lose our focus if we aren’t on guard. I was given a choice after the conversation with my friend – I could wallow in self-pity or step up to the plate and continue to commit myself to God and entrust my future to Him (I’ve got to say, I could have done better! It was a toughy). But despite my human frailty, the better of the two choices is to be on guard! It sounds very militant and strategic, because well… it has to be. (Ever had a not-so-great single day? Pretty easy to rapidly spiral downwards if we aren’t careful, hey)
The 14th Feb highlights all the incredible, gushy things about love that we’re apparently missing out on. And if we let it, it can be a sad comparison-fest!
Comparison is the enemy of contentment. We don’t want to go there. We’re in a war. We must be on guard. We must fight. Don’t fall for the lies so rampant around about us. Believe God’s truth.
Truth: God is faithful, generous and kind-hearted, and He loves us (Psalm 45:11)! He’s not holding out on us – He is working all things together for our good (Romans 8:28) and He is doing it in the right timing (even when it feels like He is being oh so slow!).
Truth: He created us – we are beautiful and not forgotten (Isaiah 41:9).
Truth: The greatest love we’ll ever know is the love of the Father. Any earthly love we experience is but a trickle next to the gushing river of His love poured out.
Truth: The war is already won – we just have to live it out (Rom 8:31)
Truth: He has given us armour (His Word) to wield so that we can be victorious. The Word of God is indeed living and active and sharper than any two-edged sword, and there is truth and encouragement in it for every season we find ourselves in. Not only that, but we have the Holy Spirit who is able to ‘remind us of all things’ (that is, we can ask Him to help us to remember the truth of the Word so that we can stand firm and undefeated).
So, we must focus! Focus!! Focus!!!
Singleness is a battle – I know, I experience it every day. If it’s not someone speaking discouragement over me, it’s the ‘chatterbox’ who gets inside my head to try to make me believe the lies. The struggle is real. But the victory is too.
And, as we learn to find our contentment, support, encouragement and love in Him, we won’t just win this particular battle, but we’ll be equipped and strengthened to deal with all the others we will face in life (yes, unfortunately, there will be more ha ha).
We’re all a people growing – in our dependence upon, and trust in, God. Stay strong! xx